Sure, I got it all together?

I think that no matter how much you think you have finally arrived at a good place in your life; you feel confident; you feel hopeful; I'm not sure we ever really have it all together. So, there she was trying to balance her life between her husband's request for a divorce, anger, fear, sorrow and her determination that she will recover; she will get a new life; and she will begin again -- that is if he does not agree to restart their marriage which she wants with all her heart. All the skill and compassion I have is tested at these moments. I don't have it all together anymore as I listen, encourage, understand. It's not my marriage and I fear that I may say the wrong thing or miss something she is telling me. She leaves encouraged and hopeful. I remain wondering if I did what was the right thing to do. Dr. D.

The Weather

There is a problem with this wonderful cooler weather, 45 at night 68 in the day. The problem it is a sign that winter is around the corner. Don't like winter, even in NC. Sound foolish? Yes, it is foolish to give up a wonderful day because winter is next. It is not that one can certainly enjoy the winter. It is that this wonderful Fall day will go without the joy that it can bring. Oh, Wait. Doing that with other things? Skip the joy of today because of worry about the future? Maybe you are doing that with the past -- skip the joy of today because of worry about the past. Enjoy the day. It may be the secret to the happy life. Dr. D.

Going Away - Not Good

I am on the road all the time, well, most of the time. It drags you down no matter how comfortable you might be. But that is nothing compared to what Soldiers do. Funny, both good and bad comes from going away all the time. Soldiers have an added element of fear that is always there but seldom faced. It is better NOT to face it. That fear is that he or she may not return -- a deployment may cost a Soldier's life. Attending memorial services is difficult because it makes very real the possibility that "my" soldier will be the next to die -- especially when the memorial service is for someone in the same unit. So, there is no way that I can figure going away is a good thing during combat. It may be good for the United States or for a country that we are helping to guarantee freedom. But for families it is never good. Dr. D.