Let Me Introduce Myself

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, retired US Army Colonel, university professor, international speaker and teacher, and author, now a Marriage and Family Life Consultant for the US Military.

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Another Hot Day

Some places in NC were flooded yesterday and today they are drying out. Here at Ft Bragg, it was a very nice summer day -- HOT! Do soldiers stay indoors on hot days? No. Do soldiers stop training on hot days? No. Do soldiers stop preparing to deploy to a war zone? No. Do soldiers simply take the day off when it is hot? No. Soldiers soldier. They keep at it, hot or cold, rain or shine. Soldiers have done that for years, well, centuries, for 233 years since July 4, 1776. I admire that so much. They seem so young. I was married and had children and joined the US Army before most of them were born. They are as tough as any soldier before them. No softees here. So, another hot day means nothing to a soldier. Would that every American worked like this without complaint, without hesitation, without regard for self. That's a hot weather soldier. Today's Army. Dr. D.

Monday, July 6, 2009

Parenting is for TEAMS

Today I watched a Mom working with her two children, while their Dad looked on. With two kids wouldn't two parents have been a better idea than one active participant and one observer? Parenting is a Team Sport! Although I am the first to admit that Mom was the primary care giver, teacher, and, well, parent to our children, BOTH Mom and Dad are the parents, not just one or the other, not one more than the other. Parenting takes two and it is best when both work together. Sometimes it takes one parent to make it clear and friendly to the other that it takes two. Not just to "baby sit" but to parent, teaching, loving, giving, caring. Parenting is for TEAMS. Dr. D.